My wife's sister has stayed with us for almost two months while "finding a new place". I am OK with that, but you know what I mean. If she is really finding a new place, she should put more effort into it.
That would be rough, even my family the close ones like siblings know better. I like my own space. It took me a long time to get to where I am today and I am stingy being the youngest. I am not sure I could share my house with anyone again other than immediate family.
If she isn't putting forth time and effort, she probably isn't going to find a place. You're in a tough situation and only you and your wife can decide what the rules are. In the meantime, you could always ask her about contributing to the expenses. That's only fair and it might be the motivation she needs to get busy with finding her own place to live.
That is a difficult situation, especially as she is your in law. It would be easier if she were your own sibling. I think your wife should take a larger part in making a decision about it.
It's great that you can help her in this time of need. If she is overstaying her welcome then you should have your husband talk to her. I'm guessing she is his sister? Again I say it's great that you can help her.
Yes, it is a delicate matter to deal with. And I agree with the others that it would be better to let your wife take care of this, because the lady is her sister.
Is she stuck in a rut or does she not really care what she is doing with her life? We had someone like that in our family do the same, a cousin who is about 20. She ended up moving into a house that has no adults really living there. Yes they are over 18 but they are in that "we do not care what we do" mood and its rubbing off on her too.
Does she has a job, or is she currently unemployed? I know it would be hard to find a place to live in if you had no job and didn't have regular income.
This economy has become such a "renter" economy that rents have gone up dramatically, and I imagine it would be hard to find a place. 1 bedroom, 1 bath apartments in horrible neighborhoods are going for over $900 a month here.
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